"You are gonna blow everything off, to be with me" (communicated to women)
If a girl likes you, she totally will. And it is a display of a healthy dynamic if she indeed does.
Most girls I have ever been with, have ALWAYS, blew off what they were doing.
This is the MAIN PATTERN..
Its just what happens when you are in an attraction filled interaction with somebody. (I'm no mr. cool, super good looks guy either..)
I do NOT, chumpishly ask her "when she is free".. Trust me, that is just a luxury nobody has.. Everyone is always busy or will be..
YOU ALWAYS HAVE TO BLOW IT OFF
DON'T FIND FREE TIME... MAKE HER BLOW OFF WHAT SHE IS DOING
You are better off asking, what she wants to blow off, to be with you, this week. Than finding free time.
$$$$$$$$
I have to blow off shit to be with her too..If she says "actually I'm going dancing now", I'll be like "cool where we going"..
Girl: No actually I'm busy
Cosy: Fuck, so am I, I should probably finish, helping this baby puppy cross the street, who knows what could happen. You are so smart!
Come on nerd, balls up, ditch what you are doing and come out with me!
Blowing shit off is THE NORM.. Its cool to blow shit off. You are cool for blowing off stuff to be cool with her.
You have to blow shit off to have fun!
$$$$$$$$
A small list of things I've made girls blow off
1) Their own birthday party
2) Their mothers birthday party
3) Work (without calling in sick)
4) Giving their friends a lift home
5) Job Interview
6) Fiance'/Boyfriend
Yup, girls have blown em off..
Infact, I ran into this phenomenon, by accident. I just found that girls were doing this.. Blowing shit off to be with me, cuz they'd ask me when to do stuff, and I'd be like "lets meet at 8 tonight".. And later I'd figure they blew off their fiances suprise birthday party.. Or some crazy shit..
GIRLS ARE WEIRD..
Girls like you so much that they are weird.. And do weird things.
So I learnt that, blowing shit off IS THE NORM. Its what you are supposed to do.
So stop framing hangouts as "we find free time, and then we makes the mischief" like a psycho.
And start framing it like "holy shit, I'll totally ditch these two girls, if you promise to be wild with me, and sing to passing strangers!"
"Ditch your friends, whatever you are doing ditch it.."
This is extensively field tested, you can trust me on this one. 95% or more, a girl has ditched, or blown something off, to be with me.. Finding time IS NOT AN OPTION.
FINDING TIME NEVER WORKS.. EVER!
Don't ever make that stupid mistake AGAIN!
Trust me, tell her to blow it off..
Its like going for this kiss. If you do it and fail, you are still way better off for having tried anyways.
Ofcourse, don't be too spastic about it though ;)
Girls should always blow off what they are doing to go out with you.. Trust me.. Its the way healthy relationships go.
Sunday, July 27, 2008
Thursday, July 24, 2008
Being A Great Kisser
1 have good breath
2 don't slober
3 don't keep tongue dead in mouth, if girls tongue comes in, nobody wants to touch dead flesh :P
4 Don't lick her face off (girls do this to me ALL THE TIME, I'm so sick of it :P)
5 Use lips only for atleast the first ten seconds - thirty seconds (so classy)
6 Mimic her style slightly, so your styles mesh
I like to, tease a girl, via making her come in to kiss me, then pull back so she just grazes me. I keep doing that till she is on the end of her reach, then I graze a kiss.
Makes girls STOP DEAD everytime.
Great kissing to me, YOU CAN DEFINATELY FEEL IT. Its like time stops, everything around you dissapears.
I mean, when I'm kissing a girl, we forget where we are. She can't think, her hands that were caressing me just drop to the floor, our lips begin to slow, so much, that we barely are doing anything, yet the sensation is amazing.
Its like spinning, in your own world.
I focus on THE RELEASE. Like for example, how my lips gently slip away from hers, and gently graze and release pressure as they do.
I focus also, on bringing her to her edge, then gently pulling her into my world. And thats when the pressure, of the kiss itself makes an effect on her (usually the pressure of the kiss does not have that effect, its just empty, atleast for me)
I also slightly mimic her style, so that OUR STYLES MESH.
If she sucks at calibrating to my style. I will, get her to stop gently, and softly tease her, until she wants to kiss me, then I'll pull away just barely, and just barely, and just barely, and just on the end of her range, touch her lips gently with mine. (alot of girls have weird styles so slowing them down, teasing them, barely grazing their lips, makes it impossible for them to use their style, and forces them to do a classy lips only kiss for a bit)
Make sure you mimic slightly, and try to make you styles mesh.
If you kiss well, you should feel it right down into your legs, and feet and toes. You can tell she feels the same, because you both just, stop time.
$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$
For a sexier kiss I do things differently!
I try to very much stop her role in the kissing!
I want her to be PURELY RECEPTIVE, purely presenting her lips.
I want to fill her lips, by teasing, luring, and preparing her for my most seductive kiss.
Its a fragile thing.. You can't just kiss harder for it to feel awesome. SHE HAS TO PRESENT HARD! Her lips need to explode.
And like taking a bite of an exploding orange. It bursts, into sexuality.And she has to pull back and get away from you. Because its so intense.. Because its such a rush (kind of like how if a massage is so good, you can't sit still).
And thats how I do a sexy kiss
$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$
Now I also have an Escalation kiss.
Which is pretty normal.
Just a "hey there, I'm here, look out" kind of kiss.
Or I may just go about half and inch from her lips and go (yeah, thats right, what you gonna do!)I get aggressive, that I am not gonna kiss her, but I assert that I could and threaten that I may, and by doing so reveal her vulnerability for all to see.
I HOLD HER STILL
Thats the main part of my escalation kiss. I show dominance, via holding her still. Whether it be by frame, by shock and awe, by her not knowing what is going on.. ANYTHING.
(I know she will not reject my kiss if I offer it, but will reject it if I do not)
That is why I am dominant, and why I tease displaying her vulnerability. Because if I kiss her, she will kiss back, and prove her vulnerability. She hopes I don't make her weak, by me kissing her, but when I kiss her, it doesn't matter, she becomes vulnerable in my arms.
$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$
- The soft slipping grazing release
- The teasing edge, where I firmly take her
- Presenting her lips.. Full lips erupt
- I hold her still, and display my dominance and her vulnerability
Its all about hormones releasing
2 don't slober
3 don't keep tongue dead in mouth, if girls tongue comes in, nobody wants to touch dead flesh :P
4 Don't lick her face off (girls do this to me ALL THE TIME, I'm so sick of it :P)
5 Use lips only for atleast the first ten seconds - thirty seconds (so classy)
6 Mimic her style slightly, so your styles mesh
I like to, tease a girl, via making her come in to kiss me, then pull back so she just grazes me. I keep doing that till she is on the end of her reach, then I graze a kiss.
Makes girls STOP DEAD everytime.
Great kissing to me, YOU CAN DEFINATELY FEEL IT. Its like time stops, everything around you dissapears.
I mean, when I'm kissing a girl, we forget where we are. She can't think, her hands that were caressing me just drop to the floor, our lips begin to slow, so much, that we barely are doing anything, yet the sensation is amazing.
Its like spinning, in your own world.
I focus on THE RELEASE. Like for example, how my lips gently slip away from hers, and gently graze and release pressure as they do.
I focus also, on bringing her to her edge, then gently pulling her into my world. And thats when the pressure, of the kiss itself makes an effect on her (usually the pressure of the kiss does not have that effect, its just empty, atleast for me)
I also slightly mimic her style, so that OUR STYLES MESH.
If she sucks at calibrating to my style. I will, get her to stop gently, and softly tease her, until she wants to kiss me, then I'll pull away just barely, and just barely, and just barely, and just on the end of her range, touch her lips gently with mine. (alot of girls have weird styles so slowing them down, teasing them, barely grazing their lips, makes it impossible for them to use their style, and forces them to do a classy lips only kiss for a bit)
Make sure you mimic slightly, and try to make you styles mesh.
If you kiss well, you should feel it right down into your legs, and feet and toes. You can tell she feels the same, because you both just, stop time.
$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$
For a sexier kiss I do things differently!
I try to very much stop her role in the kissing!
I want her to be PURELY RECEPTIVE, purely presenting her lips.
I want to fill her lips, by teasing, luring, and preparing her for my most seductive kiss.
Its a fragile thing.. You can't just kiss harder for it to feel awesome. SHE HAS TO PRESENT HARD! Her lips need to explode.
And like taking a bite of an exploding orange. It bursts, into sexuality.And she has to pull back and get away from you. Because its so intense.. Because its such a rush (kind of like how if a massage is so good, you can't sit still).
And thats how I do a sexy kiss
$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$
Now I also have an Escalation kiss.
Which is pretty normal.
Just a "hey there, I'm here, look out" kind of kiss.
Or I may just go about half and inch from her lips and go (yeah, thats right, what you gonna do!)I get aggressive, that I am not gonna kiss her, but I assert that I could and threaten that I may, and by doing so reveal her vulnerability for all to see.
I HOLD HER STILL
Thats the main part of my escalation kiss. I show dominance, via holding her still. Whether it be by frame, by shock and awe, by her not knowing what is going on.. ANYTHING.
(I know she will not reject my kiss if I offer it, but will reject it if I do not)
That is why I am dominant, and why I tease displaying her vulnerability. Because if I kiss her, she will kiss back, and prove her vulnerability. She hopes I don't make her weak, by me kissing her, but when I kiss her, it doesn't matter, she becomes vulnerable in my arms.
$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$
- The soft slipping grazing release
- The teasing edge, where I firmly take her
- Presenting her lips.. Full lips erupt
- I hold her still, and display my dominance and her vulnerability
Its all about hormones releasing
Booty Cheques
Let me introduce you, to..
THE BOOTY CHEQUE
Ok, so let my paint this out for you.
You are flirting with a girl, and everything is going great, she likes you, and thinks to herself.
Mmmm, mmmm, I could have me some of this!
So you think you are doing great, and you go for it, you think you are about to score, and so does she.
Then comes the interuption.
Could be anything, from blue balls, to your back cramping up, to no condom, to her little mole of a friend, or the fact she is starring in a new hit TV series called 24 and has to dramatically escape to diffuse a Hydrogen-bomb somewhere.
And here it comes, you both look each other in the eyes, for a couple of seconds, of "oh no". Here it comes.
Instead of deciding to pay you in booty cash.
She decides to pay you in the form of a "Booty Cheque", that reads "good for one crazy sex.. later".
And its no big deal cuz, she is happy cuz she thinks you are gonna cash the cheque, you are happy cuz you are like AWESOME! I get to ram shit in that!
But what happens?
The cheque bounces!
And you think.. NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!
And that is the "BOOTY CHEQUE".
You get a girl attracted, you do all the work to make her horny, and you THINK you are gonna score, I mean how couldn't you I mean, did you see this girl SHE'S ALL OVER YOU!
She's practically drueling on the floor salivating at the idea of riding you till the early morning.
But no.. Not yet.. Instead of booty cash, you get..The Booty Cheque!
Cuz there are logistical problems and one of you has to go. Its like a little IOU "one blow job and some sex on the side".
You are left smiling going OH YEAH! And she is smiling going oh yeah!
But then the moment comes.
Panic sets in..
Oh no!OH NO!!! (you start frantically looking around, head turning sharply from side to side)
And you realise
Its just a piece of paper!
And she realises, NO, I only gave him a piece of paper!
So you both rush to the bank, and ofcourse..
It bounces.. Ofcourse it would, you knew it would, and it does. You are just left standing their thinking "I knew it would bounce" shaking your head.
And there is always something weird about trying to get your money out from a bank with that cheque. Its like a note from your mother. My mumma said, you need to pay up, cuz she squiggled here on this piece of paper. Is it any good? My mum said it was good. GIMME MY BOOTY CASH!
But, its too late, its gone.
$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$
This is a phenomenon happening all over the world, to people of all types, girls, boys, pretty people, ugly people.Though ugly trailer park people have an advantage, cuz they can't write and have no teeth, so are less inclined to write a booty check. They just flip open the skirt in full public display and whip out their bucket of dingy dirty old coins.Guys write them to girls, girls write them to guys.
But they almost ALWAYS, bounce.
A girl will come up to a guy, all sexy like, biting her lip, clumsily falling on him "whoops, silly me, did I just graze your dick, whoops".
And she is like YES! He's attracted!
And the dude is like YES, she's attractive!
So what does he do (oh shit, I feel bad right now.. I know!)
THE BOOTY CHEQUE!
The girl gets this booty check, and is like okay!
But WAIT!
She turns back.. Its already too late!
NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO
This happens to every single person.. All the time.
Your hotness, and attractiveness, doesn't ACTUALLY buy you BOOTY CASH..Oh no..It gets you "booty cheques".
You THINK you are SOOOOOOOOO gonna get laid, she thinks she is SOOOOOOOO gonna get laid.
I mean attraction is there right?Attraction gets you the booty cash right?
WRONG!
Attraction gets you the BOOTY CHEQUE!
And the booty cheque then bounces.
So we have all these hot people walking around thinking "what the fuck just happened?".
Confused out of their fucking minds.
Quivering lips, "I WANT MY BOOTY CASH!!! NOOOOOO!!!".
And confused they just wander on.
$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$
Okay, now you know what the booty cheque is..
I will explain that there is actually a FRAME, of the booty cheque. Effectively people THINK booty cheques, are as good as booty cash. They think they are a pimp, till they realise its just a stupid piece of paper.
Both girls and guys, make this mistake. You need to learn, not to accept booty cheques.
You and Her: Oh yeah lets get it on
Her: Is booty cheque ok?
You: Your rediculous cheques are no good here! Booty cash ONLY!
$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$
Every person gets this fucked up booty cheque thing. No matter how hot they are. No matter how TIGHT there game is. How sexy they are.
I had to learn this the hard way.. Endless ALMOST lays, and "good for one lay.. later", and "FUCK SHE LIKES ME SO HARD!". To result with barely a few scraps in booty change.
LEARN TO GET BOOTY CASH! Stop accepting booty cheques.
Your crazy squiggles are no good here!
THERE ARE NO PROMISES AND NO GARUNTEES WHEN IT COMES TO MEN AND WOMEN.. EVER!
THE BOOTY CHEQUE
Ok, so let my paint this out for you.
You are flirting with a girl, and everything is going great, she likes you, and thinks to herself.
Mmmm, mmmm, I could have me some of this!
So you think you are doing great, and you go for it, you think you are about to score, and so does she.
Then comes the interuption.
Could be anything, from blue balls, to your back cramping up, to no condom, to her little mole of a friend, or the fact she is starring in a new hit TV series called 24 and has to dramatically escape to diffuse a Hydrogen-bomb somewhere.
And here it comes, you both look each other in the eyes, for a couple of seconds, of "oh no". Here it comes.
Instead of deciding to pay you in booty cash.
She decides to pay you in the form of a "Booty Cheque", that reads "good for one crazy sex.. later".
And its no big deal cuz, she is happy cuz she thinks you are gonna cash the cheque, you are happy cuz you are like AWESOME! I get to ram shit in that!
But what happens?
The cheque bounces!
And you think.. NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!
And that is the "BOOTY CHEQUE".
You get a girl attracted, you do all the work to make her horny, and you THINK you are gonna score, I mean how couldn't you I mean, did you see this girl SHE'S ALL OVER YOU!
She's practically drueling on the floor salivating at the idea of riding you till the early morning.
But no.. Not yet.. Instead of booty cash, you get..The Booty Cheque!
Cuz there are logistical problems and one of you has to go. Its like a little IOU "one blow job and some sex on the side".
You are left smiling going OH YEAH! And she is smiling going oh yeah!
But then the moment comes.
Panic sets in..
Oh no!OH NO!!! (you start frantically looking around, head turning sharply from side to side)
And you realise
Its just a piece of paper!
And she realises, NO, I only gave him a piece of paper!
So you both rush to the bank, and ofcourse..
It bounces.. Ofcourse it would, you knew it would, and it does. You are just left standing their thinking "I knew it would bounce" shaking your head.
And there is always something weird about trying to get your money out from a bank with that cheque. Its like a note from your mother. My mumma said, you need to pay up, cuz she squiggled here on this piece of paper. Is it any good? My mum said it was good. GIMME MY BOOTY CASH!
But, its too late, its gone.
$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$
This is a phenomenon happening all over the world, to people of all types, girls, boys, pretty people, ugly people.Though ugly trailer park people have an advantage, cuz they can't write and have no teeth, so are less inclined to write a booty check. They just flip open the skirt in full public display and whip out their bucket of dingy dirty old coins.Guys write them to girls, girls write them to guys.
But they almost ALWAYS, bounce.
A girl will come up to a guy, all sexy like, biting her lip, clumsily falling on him "whoops, silly me, did I just graze your dick, whoops".
And she is like YES! He's attracted!
And the dude is like YES, she's attractive!
So what does he do (oh shit, I feel bad right now.. I know!)
THE BOOTY CHEQUE!
The girl gets this booty check, and is like okay!
But WAIT!
She turns back.. Its already too late!
NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO
This happens to every single person.. All the time.
Your hotness, and attractiveness, doesn't ACTUALLY buy you BOOTY CASH..Oh no..It gets you "booty cheques".
You THINK you are SOOOOOOOOO gonna get laid, she thinks she is SOOOOOOOO gonna get laid.
I mean attraction is there right?Attraction gets you the booty cash right?
WRONG!
Attraction gets you the BOOTY CHEQUE!
And the booty cheque then bounces.
So we have all these hot people walking around thinking "what the fuck just happened?".
Confused out of their fucking minds.
Quivering lips, "I WANT MY BOOTY CASH!!! NOOOOOO!!!".
And confused they just wander on.
$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$
Okay, now you know what the booty cheque is..
I will explain that there is actually a FRAME, of the booty cheque. Effectively people THINK booty cheques, are as good as booty cash. They think they are a pimp, till they realise its just a stupid piece of paper.
Both girls and guys, make this mistake. You need to learn, not to accept booty cheques.
You and Her: Oh yeah lets get it on
Her: Is booty cheque ok?
You: Your rediculous cheques are no good here! Booty cash ONLY!
$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$
Every person gets this fucked up booty cheque thing. No matter how hot they are. No matter how TIGHT there game is. How sexy they are.
I had to learn this the hard way.. Endless ALMOST lays, and "good for one lay.. later", and "FUCK SHE LIKES ME SO HARD!". To result with barely a few scraps in booty change.
LEARN TO GET BOOTY CASH! Stop accepting booty cheques.
Your crazy squiggles are no good here!
THERE ARE NO PROMISES AND NO GARUNTEES WHEN IT COMES TO MEN AND WOMEN.. EVER!
The Segway (One of the most useful tools)
HB = Hot babe (glossary)
I use this ALL the time
I call it the "segway"
HB: What if I do this
Me: Then thats breaking the rules
Simply by mentioning, "breaking the rules", I can do so, or she can do so.
HB: Whats fun to do
Me: Definately not kissing
Simply by mentioning "kissing" in any way, no matter in what context, you can kiss her, or she can kiss you.
Me: Your body has a cool shape
By mentioning her body, you can touch it, or she can touch yours
There is also a less obvious form of it.
Me: Do you smoke?
HB: No
Then you can kiss her because you are checking
Me: Wow, gorgeous (indicating her), that braclette looks so cool (indicating it was the bracelette all along)
Then you can kiss her, because you refered to her as gorgeous, even if only briefly.
Me: I hate people that just do what they want at any time they feel like it!
Then pull the girl in and do something.
Me: I have something to tell you
Then do whatever to her, kiss etc
Me: I don't like you very much, did you know that
Then you can kiss her... This seems stupid, but notice "Like You".Me: Hey thereKiss her. Because you indicated you like her presense. (tougher, but you gotta know your limits)
This is the simplest, most overused thing I do to bring shit out of the blue.
Me: Wow, look at your leg...Wrap it around me
Me: You know, I don't ever do this
This indicates back to what is going on, and allows you to progress and do something further. It really isn't hard to continuously segway.
Its subtle, Its rediculously easy and idiot proof, and its not weird and is generally funny to boot
HB: I don't think we should
Me: I don't think we should either
Starts unbuttoning her top
HB: No, not now, I gotta go
Me: Yeah, I know, I hate when people do this
Keeps unbuttoning
If she actually gets pissy, you can just, grab her back, and say "wait"...
Me: I'm sorry I didn't mean to be bad, can you forgive me
Her: I don't know
Notice, I keep segwaying, so when the time is right, I can just move on in, and kiss her.
Easiest thing in the world. Bring up something slightly related, or mention words, and you give yourself a segway into an escalation of any type.
A little ladder for escalation:
- Light touching
- Kissing
- Manipulating her body
- Getting legs around you, or her entwined in you
- Sexuality
I use this ALL the time
I call it the "segway"
HB: What if I do this
Me: Then thats breaking the rules
Simply by mentioning, "breaking the rules", I can do so, or she can do so.
HB: Whats fun to do
Me: Definately not kissing
Simply by mentioning "kissing" in any way, no matter in what context, you can kiss her, or she can kiss you.
Me: Your body has a cool shape
By mentioning her body, you can touch it, or she can touch yours
There is also a less obvious form of it.
Me: Do you smoke?
HB: No
Then you can kiss her because you are checking
Me: Wow, gorgeous (indicating her), that braclette looks so cool (indicating it was the bracelette all along)
Then you can kiss her, because you refered to her as gorgeous, even if only briefly.
Me: I hate people that just do what they want at any time they feel like it!
Then pull the girl in and do something.
Me: I have something to tell you
Then do whatever to her, kiss etc
Me: I don't like you very much, did you know that
Then you can kiss her... This seems stupid, but notice "Like You".Me: Hey thereKiss her. Because you indicated you like her presense. (tougher, but you gotta know your limits)
This is the simplest, most overused thing I do to bring shit out of the blue.
Me: Wow, look at your leg...Wrap it around me
Me: You know, I don't ever do this
This indicates back to what is going on, and allows you to progress and do something further. It really isn't hard to continuously segway.
Its subtle, Its rediculously easy and idiot proof, and its not weird and is generally funny to boot
HB: I don't think we should
Me: I don't think we should either
Starts unbuttoning her top
HB: No, not now, I gotta go
Me: Yeah, I know, I hate when people do this
Keeps unbuttoning
If she actually gets pissy, you can just, grab her back, and say "wait"...
Me: I'm sorry I didn't mean to be bad, can you forgive me
Her: I don't know
Notice, I keep segwaying, so when the time is right, I can just move on in, and kiss her.
Easiest thing in the world. Bring up something slightly related, or mention words, and you give yourself a segway into an escalation of any type.
A little ladder for escalation:
- Light touching
- Kissing
- Manipulating her body
- Getting legs around you, or her entwined in you
- Sexuality
Dominant Escalation (My Style)
Escalation as a display of dominance
NOT A REWARD FOR SELF
Kissing her, is not a reward to me, she is not a prize I am trying to win, thus I do not need permission to kiss a girl. Its not about my own gratification. Its about me displaying my dominance. Displaying her desirability, and indicating my interest.
As such a kiss, is a DISPLAY of your dominance, not an attempt to get something you want.
Thusly you don't need (permission) and don't need to be afraid.
This is why nearly ALL of my escalations are DOMINANT ones.
A good way to explain, good escalation, is dominance.
Sexual dominance.
To show that you are okay with kissing her, is she? Or is she afraid?
Permission doesn't matter if a kiss or an escalation is a demonstration of dominance, and an unfearing display of intention and sexual desire.
Example:
A girl teases me after I hug her
Girl: Is that it?
Cosy: (well screw you to, handle this!) (steps in, with complete intent, slowly lingers before her lips)
Girl: (pauses, might pull back)
Cosy: (grabs her, NO PULL BACK MISSY, CAN YOU HANDLE IT! Slowly tracing her lips, and then kiss)
I then come out of the kiss and act as normal. Or perhaps she gets into it, and I keep kissing her (which is most of the time the case). Or maybe I shine her a smile.
Escalation IS NOT ABOUT PERMISSION!!!
Gaining a prize is about permission! (We want to give, not take, so we don't ask permission ever)
It is a display of dominance, and a display that you KNOW she likes you, and a display that you don't let anything get in your way, you take it.
DOMINANT ESCALATION.
Understand it
Live it
Breathe it!
NOT A REWARD FOR SELF
Kissing her, is not a reward to me, she is not a prize I am trying to win, thus I do not need permission to kiss a girl. Its not about my own gratification. Its about me displaying my dominance. Displaying her desirability, and indicating my interest.
As such a kiss, is a DISPLAY of your dominance, not an attempt to get something you want.
Thusly you don't need (permission) and don't need to be afraid.
This is why nearly ALL of my escalations are DOMINANT ones.
A good way to explain, good escalation, is dominance.
Sexual dominance.
To show that you are okay with kissing her, is she? Or is she afraid?
Permission doesn't matter if a kiss or an escalation is a demonstration of dominance, and an unfearing display of intention and sexual desire.
Example:
A girl teases me after I hug her
Girl: Is that it?
Cosy: (well screw you to, handle this!) (steps in, with complete intent, slowly lingers before her lips)
Girl: (pauses, might pull back)
Cosy: (grabs her, NO PULL BACK MISSY, CAN YOU HANDLE IT! Slowly tracing her lips, and then kiss)
I then come out of the kiss and act as normal. Or perhaps she gets into it, and I keep kissing her (which is most of the time the case). Or maybe I shine her a smile.
Escalation IS NOT ABOUT PERMISSION!!!
Gaining a prize is about permission! (We want to give, not take, so we don't ask permission ever)
It is a display of dominance, and a display that you KNOW she likes you, and a display that you don't let anything get in your way, you take it.
DOMINANT ESCALATION.
Understand it
Live it
Breathe it!
Dominance With Women
I lead via displaying trust.. And that is dominant.
I'm not tough guy or alpha.. Infact, those criminal wannabes always seem to fight me, in ever increasing groups.. HOWEVER, with WOMEN, my game could be described as nothing OTHER than dominant.
I don't strut around with my strong arms, and fuck with other peoples rights. Assert my authority when its not called for.
I'm actually calibrated.
Why am I dominant? Well mostly its because I realise that girls LIKE ME, and because I'm not bogged down in unhelpful lines of thought and am allowed to express myself without people "interfering".
GIRLS LIKE ME:
Well, this belief isn't what it looks like. I know it looks like a cocky belief.. But actually, to me its always been a selfless belief and a leadership trait.
I'm sure everybody AUTOMATICALLY agrees that you need to know that "girls like you" (thats confidence).
However, I'd like you to suspend that judgement for a moment.
As that isn't what I am talking about.
I am talking about, women.. You know.. The OTHER PEOPLE that exist on this world the same as men.
Well, they have challenges with men too, and are unsure about guys.
Now its pretty clear, one of has to do something, and that the chicks GENERALLY DON'T.
Now, thats all well and good, but what does that mean.
Well to me it means, they are not going to display that they like me. And THAT MEANS, girls that LIKE ME, will not display it.
Now I have two options
- Diss everygirl even the ones that like me, cuz they don't display it
- Give everygirl a chance, and give her faith, trust in her, realise girls are sturdy, and don't need them to display their interest directly.
So thats whay I do..
I DON'T need women to display directly, but instead, I trust them, and as a display of THAT TRUST, I will not assume they don't like me. I WILL GIVE THEM A CHANCE, instead of diss them all.
Now, THAT is dominant!
Even in the largest group of men, WOMEN KNOW I AM DOMINANT OVER WOMEN.
I am no pansy. A physically dominant male, TURNS INTO A PANSY, when a woman speaks.
Whilst he is still sexy, a girl is in "too much control" of this "sexy thing". And she loses interest.
Whilst with me, THEY CAN'T HIDE ANYTHING.
"You can run, but you can't hide"
IS DOMINANCE.
And its not a threatening, all capable force, its an all seeing one.
Dominance isn't about "being able", its about seeing whats going on. And being able to take the situations VERY GUTS.
I can see a girl for the flirt she really is.
And thats cuz I trust her.
With that trust, I don't HAVE to see that she likes me.
I do her a favor, by leading, and taking the blow. She does me a favor by respecting the trust I put in her.
Trust comes into it, because I DON'T NEED HER TO TELL ME.
Why, do I trust her..
Cuz if I diss women as "not liking me" I'll treat them like nothing.
SO INSTEAD I TRUST HER AS LIKING ME, then I won't treat her like I couldn't care less about her.
Simple really.
And that one thing makes me LEAD, AND BE DOMINANT.
My display of dominance, IS A DISPLAY OF FAITH, TRUST, AND UNDERSTANDING.
Not an egotistical, LASH out.
THAT, is why I CAN'T look creepy when I escalate or talk to women.
CUZ I TRUST THAT THEY LIKE ME, because that makes me treat them well without HAVING TO HAVE THEM DO THE WORK AND TELL ME.
I trust that you like me, you don't have to tell me.
That is a generous mindframe
That is a dominant mindframe
That is a mindframe that escalates
That is an unashamed and free mindframe
That is a masculine mindframe
That is an abundance mindframe
That is a flirtatious mindframe
And its all those things, without even needing to be.
Dominance is about TRUSTING that a woman likes you.. So that you will be confident
I'm not tough guy or alpha.. Infact, those criminal wannabes always seem to fight me, in ever increasing groups.. HOWEVER, with WOMEN, my game could be described as nothing OTHER than dominant.
I don't strut around with my strong arms, and fuck with other peoples rights. Assert my authority when its not called for.
I'm actually calibrated.
Why am I dominant? Well mostly its because I realise that girls LIKE ME, and because I'm not bogged down in unhelpful lines of thought and am allowed to express myself without people "interfering".
GIRLS LIKE ME:
Well, this belief isn't what it looks like. I know it looks like a cocky belief.. But actually, to me its always been a selfless belief and a leadership trait.
I'm sure everybody AUTOMATICALLY agrees that you need to know that "girls like you" (thats confidence).
However, I'd like you to suspend that judgement for a moment.
As that isn't what I am talking about.
I am talking about, women.. You know.. The OTHER PEOPLE that exist on this world the same as men.
Well, they have challenges with men too, and are unsure about guys.
Now its pretty clear, one of has to do something, and that the chicks GENERALLY DON'T.
Now, thats all well and good, but what does that mean.
Well to me it means, they are not going to display that they like me. And THAT MEANS, girls that LIKE ME, will not display it.
Now I have two options
- Diss everygirl even the ones that like me, cuz they don't display it
- Give everygirl a chance, and give her faith, trust in her, realise girls are sturdy, and don't need them to display their interest directly.
So thats whay I do..
I DON'T need women to display directly, but instead, I trust them, and as a display of THAT TRUST, I will not assume they don't like me. I WILL GIVE THEM A CHANCE, instead of diss them all.
Now, THAT is dominant!
Even in the largest group of men, WOMEN KNOW I AM DOMINANT OVER WOMEN.
I am no pansy. A physically dominant male, TURNS INTO A PANSY, when a woman speaks.
Whilst he is still sexy, a girl is in "too much control" of this "sexy thing". And she loses interest.
Whilst with me, THEY CAN'T HIDE ANYTHING.
"You can run, but you can't hide"
IS DOMINANCE.
And its not a threatening, all capable force, its an all seeing one.
Dominance isn't about "being able", its about seeing whats going on. And being able to take the situations VERY GUTS.
I can see a girl for the flirt she really is.
And thats cuz I trust her.
With that trust, I don't HAVE to see that she likes me.
I do her a favor, by leading, and taking the blow. She does me a favor by respecting the trust I put in her.
Trust comes into it, because I DON'T NEED HER TO TELL ME.
Why, do I trust her..
Cuz if I diss women as "not liking me" I'll treat them like nothing.
SO INSTEAD I TRUST HER AS LIKING ME, then I won't treat her like I couldn't care less about her.
Simple really.
And that one thing makes me LEAD, AND BE DOMINANT.
My display of dominance, IS A DISPLAY OF FAITH, TRUST, AND UNDERSTANDING.
Not an egotistical, LASH out.
THAT, is why I CAN'T look creepy when I escalate or talk to women.
CUZ I TRUST THAT THEY LIKE ME, because that makes me treat them well without HAVING TO HAVE THEM DO THE WORK AND TELL ME.
I trust that you like me, you don't have to tell me.
That is a generous mindframe
That is a dominant mindframe
That is a mindframe that escalates
That is an unashamed and free mindframe
That is a masculine mindframe
That is an abundance mindframe
That is a flirtatious mindframe
And its all those things, without even needing to be.
Dominance is about TRUSTING that a woman likes you.. So that you will be confident
Animal Magnetism
I CAN HANDLE IT.. CAN YOU!
Its very versatile mind frame..
Anything, from, playful, to sexually aggressive, to disinterested, can be communicated through it..
Its really just a do what you want, or impudence creating frame.
And like Franco says.. Impudence is an attractive quality (genius advice by the way, impudence is hot!).
I probably learnt this frame.. Way back when, when I was a little kiddy boy. Been using it for a VERY long time. Its my "animal magnetism" frame :D.
Seriously.. Say this, in your head, so that you keep eye contact, or stand your ground when you approach a woman.
Its basically your "stand there" frame. Also its a frame that shows powerful sexual dominance.
Its very versatile mind frame..
Anything, from, playful, to sexually aggressive, to disinterested, can be communicated through it..
Its really just a do what you want, or impudence creating frame.
And like Franco says.. Impudence is an attractive quality (genius advice by the way, impudence is hot!).
I probably learnt this frame.. Way back when, when I was a little kiddy boy. Been using it for a VERY long time. Its my "animal magnetism" frame :D.
Seriously.. Say this, in your head, so that you keep eye contact, or stand your ground when you approach a woman.
Its basically your "stand there" frame. Also its a frame that shows powerful sexual dominance.
Impression Obsession (cred Ijjjji)
Credit of this post goes to (Ijjjji)
Do not be obsessed with you impression. Focus on other things. Be distracted and think of anything other than how you appear to others.
Being obsessed with how you come across, is unhealthy for you, and the people around you. You must let go of this obsession, and no longer focus on how you "come across".
Instead focus on doing things the best you can.
Do not be obsessed with you impression. Focus on other things. Be distracted and think of anything other than how you appear to others.
Being obsessed with how you come across, is unhealthy for you, and the people around you. You must let go of this obsession, and no longer focus on how you "come across".
Instead focus on doing things the best you can.
Assume It Always Means Nothing
ASSUME IT ALWAYS MEANS NOTHING
If a girl flirts with you If a girl promises youIf a girl kino's youIf a girl is sucking your cockIf you ask her to do something for you
If you are kissing herIf you are naked walking around your house and you answer the door
Assume it always means nothing..
Great frame, USE IT!
Needy frame is.. Assume it always means something.. Every little thing she does or says.. It means something, and there is a way to manipulate that to my advantage.
No no no..
Even when it DOES, mean something, and that is rare.. STILL ASSUME IT ALWAYS MEANS NOTHING..
Why?Because its a giving frame!
If you give because others NEED, you don't give value, you give neutral or less.
If you give because you assume its nothing to them, you are truly giving with a positive frame.
Example:
If some retard charity guy comes up to me with pity, and then gives me money. He is framing "You are shit.. Here take my money to sooth your shitness!"
So to take the money, I must take the shitty frame, of me being shit.. Thanks alot charity guy!
If some guy assumes, money means nothing to you, kneels down, smiles a big shining smile, look what I got for you. You snatch at it, and he takes it back.. Uh uh! Then gives it to you.
IT CREATES TENSION
IT CREATES POSITIVE FRAMES
IT CREATES THIRST!
A person, will run behind you all day saying "no really, thankyou I needed that, I really did, thankyou so much"To which you laugh, and smile
Cosy: "I'm sure you did .. Maybe I'll see you some other time"
Girl: "Next week!"
Cosy: "Haha, maybe"
Don't assume it means shit loads to her, or them, and you will be able to be the prize without being a patronising person
Also, doing things this way, enables you TO STOP PATTING YOURSELF ON THE BACK FOR EVERY DEED YOU DO!
Which is important for being a less angry person.
Angry people, always scream about all the good they do for others, and never get thanks for. So don't assume people need your charity and value.
Then you will have value..
Confusing no?
We could discuss it all day but.. Its not confusing cuz I gave you the mindframe!
ASSUME IT ALWAYS MEANS NOTHING
If a girl flirts with you If a girl promises youIf a girl kino's youIf a girl is sucking your cockIf you ask her to do something for you
If you are kissing herIf you are naked walking around your house and you answer the door
Assume it always means nothing..
Great frame, USE IT!
Needy frame is.. Assume it always means something.. Every little thing she does or says.. It means something, and there is a way to manipulate that to my advantage.
No no no..
Even when it DOES, mean something, and that is rare.. STILL ASSUME IT ALWAYS MEANS NOTHING..
Why?Because its a giving frame!
If you give because others NEED, you don't give value, you give neutral or less.
If you give because you assume its nothing to them, you are truly giving with a positive frame.
Example:
If some retard charity guy comes up to me with pity, and then gives me money. He is framing "You are shit.. Here take my money to sooth your shitness!"
So to take the money, I must take the shitty frame, of me being shit.. Thanks alot charity guy!
If some guy assumes, money means nothing to you, kneels down, smiles a big shining smile, look what I got for you. You snatch at it, and he takes it back.. Uh uh! Then gives it to you.
IT CREATES TENSION
IT CREATES POSITIVE FRAMES
IT CREATES THIRST!
A person, will run behind you all day saying "no really, thankyou I needed that, I really did, thankyou so much"To which you laugh, and smile
Cosy: "I'm sure you did .. Maybe I'll see you some other time"
Girl: "Next week!"
Cosy: "Haha, maybe"
Don't assume it means shit loads to her, or them, and you will be able to be the prize without being a patronising person
Also, doing things this way, enables you TO STOP PATTING YOURSELF ON THE BACK FOR EVERY DEED YOU DO!
Which is important for being a less angry person.
Angry people, always scream about all the good they do for others, and never get thanks for. So don't assume people need your charity and value.
Then you will have value..
Confusing no?
We could discuss it all day but.. Its not confusing cuz I gave you the mindframe!
ASSUME IT ALWAYS MEANS NOTHING
Don't Focus On What One Person Thinks Of You
Okay, stopping some pussiness! STAT!And I mean right NOW!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tPUpxIBkcjM&feature=related
Thinking about your looks, what you can do to please, oneitis, focusing on how to get the girl..
Okay, now you know the subject.
I want you to know, that focusing on what you look like, is PART OF ONEITIS.
And is heavily related to it. As in a stunning display, Mika demonstrates, in this clip.
See how his concept of looks, and actions, are tied in with his stalking!
Let us call it Lookitis.
Focusing on how pretty you are, how desirable you are, and how that means you can get THE ONE GIRL. The only one you focus on.
Its not good practice to focus on yourself, your own looks, and whether you think you are good enough. Looks are subjective, if you focus on MANY WOMEN, and on your game AS A WHOLE, you will not care about looks or who you are..WHY?
Because, quite frankly, ALOT OF GIRLS LIKE IT!
Looks are subjective, there are alot of girls whom like it, some who don't.
Looks are ONLY a problem, when it comes down to ONE GIRL. THE GIRL. The focus of your intention.. YOUR TARGET!(For those of you who don't know, focusing on a girl gives you oneitis.. Thinking about her, changing for her etc QUIT IT! :P)
Ok, so what I am saying is.
Oneitis, and Lookitis, are like cousins.
You care how you look, because you WANT TO GET THE GIRL YOU FOCUS ON.
Looks are subjective..If you like girls, not girl, you will understand, your looks and personality don't matter.
Because ONLY WITH THE APPLICATION OF FOCUSING ON ONE GIRL, does looks matter, does your personality matter!
Understanding oneitis, to me it was a LIFE SAVER, one of the most brilliant terms, for saving people alot of pain, and reducing pussiness forever. Oneitis is caused by focusing on one girl. Thinking about her etc, gaming her specifically. Then comes the ambush of emotions that screws you sideways!
Lookitis is also caused by focusing on one girl. Gaming one girl or type of girl specifically (specifically girls that don't like you).
Lookitis, is pathetic, and pointless. And pure pussy material.
I don't even care that getting your looks handled makes you better with women.
You aren't out to impress any one particular woman, you are out because that is who you are as a whole. Your looks aren't for those you focus on and target to be your woman.
Don't focus on individual opinions.
THEN you are free, of ever caring, about what you look like, or what your personality is percieved like by other people.
This isn't something that goes away, its part of living.. Oneitis and lookitis, manifest themselves. And you must get rid of them. First by realising they are just oneitis/lookitis, and second by realising, they are caused by focusing on ONE THING, ONE PERSON, ONE TARGET.
If one target matters to you. For no truly TRULY, good reason. Its lookitis, or oneitis CENTRAL. Where all needy little boys go to DIE!
Don't ever focus on what one person thinks of you.. And don't ever focus on one person.. Especially if they are very attractive.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tPUpxIBkcjM&feature=related
Thinking about your looks, what you can do to please, oneitis, focusing on how to get the girl..
Okay, now you know the subject.
I want you to know, that focusing on what you look like, is PART OF ONEITIS.
And is heavily related to it. As in a stunning display, Mika demonstrates, in this clip.
See how his concept of looks, and actions, are tied in with his stalking!
Let us call it Lookitis.
Focusing on how pretty you are, how desirable you are, and how that means you can get THE ONE GIRL. The only one you focus on.
Its not good practice to focus on yourself, your own looks, and whether you think you are good enough. Looks are subjective, if you focus on MANY WOMEN, and on your game AS A WHOLE, you will not care about looks or who you are..WHY?
Because, quite frankly, ALOT OF GIRLS LIKE IT!
Looks are subjective, there are alot of girls whom like it, some who don't.
Looks are ONLY a problem, when it comes down to ONE GIRL. THE GIRL. The focus of your intention.. YOUR TARGET!(For those of you who don't know, focusing on a girl gives you oneitis.. Thinking about her, changing for her etc QUIT IT! :P)
Ok, so what I am saying is.
Oneitis, and Lookitis, are like cousins.
You care how you look, because you WANT TO GET THE GIRL YOU FOCUS ON.
Looks are subjective..If you like girls, not girl, you will understand, your looks and personality don't matter.
Because ONLY WITH THE APPLICATION OF FOCUSING ON ONE GIRL, does looks matter, does your personality matter!
Understanding oneitis, to me it was a LIFE SAVER, one of the most brilliant terms, for saving people alot of pain, and reducing pussiness forever. Oneitis is caused by focusing on one girl. Thinking about her etc, gaming her specifically. Then comes the ambush of emotions that screws you sideways!
Lookitis is also caused by focusing on one girl. Gaming one girl or type of girl specifically (specifically girls that don't like you).
Lookitis, is pathetic, and pointless. And pure pussy material.
I don't even care that getting your looks handled makes you better with women.
You aren't out to impress any one particular woman, you are out because that is who you are as a whole. Your looks aren't for those you focus on and target to be your woman.
Don't focus on individual opinions.
THEN you are free, of ever caring, about what you look like, or what your personality is percieved like by other people.
This isn't something that goes away, its part of living.. Oneitis and lookitis, manifest themselves. And you must get rid of them. First by realising they are just oneitis/lookitis, and second by realising, they are caused by focusing on ONE THING, ONE PERSON, ONE TARGET.
If one target matters to you. For no truly TRULY, good reason. Its lookitis, or oneitis CENTRAL. Where all needy little boys go to DIE!
Don't ever focus on what one person thinks of you.. And don't ever focus on one person.. Especially if they are very attractive.
Oneitis
If a person focuses on an attractive person for too long, they begin to fantasize about, being with them forever.. They start naming babies, going through fake interactions in their mind, and building that person up in their imagination.
Strong feelings of a crush soon follow, and the person gains the distinct impression of "this one is different" this one isn't like the rest.
Ofcourse, the person is just like the rest of us, its just the dreaded disease of Oneitis striking.
Oneitis, makes you get out of touch with reality.. Its not to be confused with love. It is completely UNFOUNDED.
It creates intense and powerful feelings, that do not help in seducing your partner.. it will make you needy, and clingy.. And you'll creep them out by saying "I love you" too early.
So the solution is "quit thinking about them".. Don't think about attractive people for too long.. Keep preoccupied with other things, and hobbies.
Don't focus on it too much.
Strong feelings of a crush soon follow, and the person gains the distinct impression of "this one is different" this one isn't like the rest.
Ofcourse, the person is just like the rest of us, its just the dreaded disease of Oneitis striking.
Oneitis, makes you get out of touch with reality.. Its not to be confused with love. It is completely UNFOUNDED.
It creates intense and powerful feelings, that do not help in seducing your partner.. it will make you needy, and clingy.. And you'll creep them out by saying "I love you" too early.
So the solution is "quit thinking about them".. Don't think about attractive people for too long.. Keep preoccupied with other things, and hobbies.
Don't focus on it too much.
If A Girl Seems Too Uninterested Or Bitchy
Generally the ego, makes a girl bitchy.
So the point is to get her ego out of the situation. Since another persons ego often doesn't help you when being social.
You want to bring her back to earth..
You want to expose her choices
Expose her opinions
Expose how she feels and who she is
Expose her weaknesses, and what she isn't aware of
"Its interesting you chose to dress in black tonight"
"Which dress is this, the funky one, or the sassy one"
"Did you know, your nose kinda wiggles when you talk.. Oh there it went again!"
I basically wanna illustrate that she could of made other choices. To make her a little self conscious, instead of egotistical.
Also ignoring a girl, has a similar effect, or talking to everyone but her. Like talking to her friends and ignoring her.
There is only a certain extent you can improve bitchy behavior though. So we can't get into this too much.
So the point is to get her ego out of the situation. Since another persons ego often doesn't help you when being social.
You want to bring her back to earth..
You want to expose her choices
Expose her opinions
Expose how she feels and who she is
Expose her weaknesses, and what she isn't aware of
"Its interesting you chose to dress in black tonight"
"Which dress is this, the funky one, or the sassy one"
"Did you know, your nose kinda wiggles when you talk.. Oh there it went again!"
I basically wanna illustrate that she could of made other choices. To make her a little self conscious, instead of egotistical.
Also ignoring a girl, has a similar effect, or talking to everyone but her. Like talking to her friends and ignoring her.
There is only a certain extent you can improve bitchy behavior though. So we can't get into this too much.
How To Open Talking With A Woman
You want to gain "compliance".
I will often approach, put my hand on the girl gently, when she turns to face me, I will smile. If she smiles back I have compliance.
I may open, pretending that I know her "Hey guys, what are you doing here!" I'll put my arm around them and smile. If they are alright with it, I assume they are complying with my presense, so I go straight into talking and interacting with them as normal..
Basically, we just want to get the person to be on the same wavelength as us. And the best way is to get them to comply to a demand, or to comply to your behavior, or to mimic you.
We want to also inject a productive mood. So that the interaction can flow effortlessly forwards.
Ask a person to hold your phone for a moment, whilst you show somebody something.. Then turn back and smile, and start bantering with the person holding your phone.
"This guy over here is nuts, I'm totally just trying to be nice.. Hey do you mind pretending like we know each other" (take her under your arm) "Hey buddy, gotta go with my girl"..
Fuck around, have some fun.
Beware though, people tend not to comply to lame things. Be a little bold, have an edge.
I will often approach, put my hand on the girl gently, when she turns to face me, I will smile. If she smiles back I have compliance.
I may open, pretending that I know her "Hey guys, what are you doing here!" I'll put my arm around them and smile. If they are alright with it, I assume they are complying with my presense, so I go straight into talking and interacting with them as normal..
Basically, we just want to get the person to be on the same wavelength as us. And the best way is to get them to comply to a demand, or to comply to your behavior, or to mimic you.
We want to also inject a productive mood. So that the interaction can flow effortlessly forwards.
Ask a person to hold your phone for a moment, whilst you show somebody something.. Then turn back and smile, and start bantering with the person holding your phone.
"This guy over here is nuts, I'm totally just trying to be nice.. Hey do you mind pretending like we know each other" (take her under your arm) "Hey buddy, gotta go with my girl"..
Fuck around, have some fun.
Beware though, people tend not to comply to lame things. Be a little bold, have an edge.
The General Formula For Seduction
Indicate Your Interest
Then Become a Challenge
You want to give a girl something, then take it away. You want to admit something, then contradict that something, or take it back.
Me: "Hey, did it hurt?"
Girl: "when I fell from heaven"
Me: "No, spending two hours putting on all your makeup"
Me: "I think you are so sexy"
Girl: "Really?"
Me: "Yeah.. If only you weren't too tall for me, I'd totally go for you.."
Me: "God, you suprised me, I didn't think I'd see you here?"
Girl: "Who are you again?"
Me: "I'm jack don't you remember, I had a total crush on you back when we were five"
Girl: "I can't remember that"
Me: "Neither can I.. Thats so weird right? Hi I'm Cosy"
Girl: "I'm kate"
Me: "Kate is such a cool name"
Girl: "Really?"
Me: "No.. But it might impress that guy" (point at dorky looking guy)
Girl: "Hehe"
Also A Huge Part Of The Formula,
Is to "Move on"
Make sure you don't rely on the woman for her half of the conversation.
Don't stay on the same topic too long, you wanna keep it fresh, and changing.
Girl: So do you come here often
Me: Hey, I got a better idea, what do you do often
Girl: Umm I dunno
Me: Come on you can totally do better than that, I bet I can think of something you do ALOT
Girl: Really?
Me: I dunno.. :D.. Lets go over here for a second (move places) Whats your favourite color?
Girl: Blue I suppose
Me: Is it cuz you like the taste of blue paint? I like red cause of strawberries
Girl: Really?
Me: No.. Lets hug (hug her) You know what I think is really interesting..
Girl: What
Me: Your lips have this little curve to them, I haven't seen that before, its horrible
Girl: My lips are horrible
Me: (kiss)
Basically, just change it up.. Just bring up whatever you want, show interest, but then be a real challenge.
If girls ask you really funky questions that make you feel insulted..
Just don't hear it, move onto something more productive.
Distract her with better trains of thought.
Then Become a Challenge
You want to give a girl something, then take it away. You want to admit something, then contradict that something, or take it back.
Me: "Hey, did it hurt?"
Girl: "when I fell from heaven"
Me: "No, spending two hours putting on all your makeup"
Me: "I think you are so sexy"
Girl: "Really?"
Me: "Yeah.. If only you weren't too tall for me, I'd totally go for you.."
Me: "God, you suprised me, I didn't think I'd see you here?"
Girl: "Who are you again?"
Me: "I'm jack don't you remember, I had a total crush on you back when we were five"
Girl: "I can't remember that"
Me: "Neither can I.. Thats so weird right? Hi I'm Cosy"
Girl: "I'm kate"
Me: "Kate is such a cool name"
Girl: "Really?"
Me: "No.. But it might impress that guy" (point at dorky looking guy)
Girl: "Hehe"
Also A Huge Part Of The Formula,
Is to "Move on"
Make sure you don't rely on the woman for her half of the conversation.
Don't stay on the same topic too long, you wanna keep it fresh, and changing.
Girl: So do you come here often
Me: Hey, I got a better idea, what do you do often
Girl: Umm I dunno
Me: Come on you can totally do better than that, I bet I can think of something you do ALOT
Girl: Really?
Me: I dunno.. :D.. Lets go over here for a second (move places) Whats your favourite color?
Girl: Blue I suppose
Me: Is it cuz you like the taste of blue paint? I like red cause of strawberries
Girl: Really?
Me: No.. Lets hug (hug her) You know what I think is really interesting..
Girl: What
Me: Your lips have this little curve to them, I haven't seen that before, its horrible
Girl: My lips are horrible
Me: (kiss)
Basically, just change it up.. Just bring up whatever you want, show interest, but then be a real challenge.
If girls ask you really funky questions that make you feel insulted..
Just don't hear it, move onto something more productive.
Distract her with better trains of thought.
Make The Moves
I'm of course not the first to ever have thought of this I must give entire credit of this post to a person known by the alias of "Ockwick", and I should also thank "Mrsex4UNyc"
* Women are almost incapable of approaching men they are attracted to, they're too afraid of rejection and being seen as slutty
* Women are almost incapable of making any move, escalating, etc, they're too afraid of rejection and being seen as slutty
(OF Course there are exceptions, but the general tendencies are as such!)
* And yet, women love sex just the same as us guys
You must make the moves, for women.
You must understand, that if she wants to kiss you, you need to kiss her, and give her opportunities to do things with you.
Some Terms You Will Need To Understand
- IOIs (indicators of interest), these are direct displays from the woman that she is interested, could be smiling at you, looking into your eyes, touching her hair, giving you her full attention, touching you.. Etc etc
- Escalation (the act of moving the interaction forwards), something like kissing a girl for the first time is considered escalation, talking about the context of being lovers, is escalation.. Because you are escalating towards sexuality. Escalation is the main principle with women. You must be always escalating to some degree. And this is what men fear the most. Escalating.
- SOIs (signals of intent) "are you single", "I think you are sexy", things like this are direct expressions of intent, similar to IOIs, however intentionally meant to be understood.
Understanding some basic escalation principles.
1) Let me paint you a picture. Their is a girl, and she likes a shy boy. She gives off IOI's, and the boy likes it, yet the shy boy does nothing. How is she to CHANGE this boy into a man, with IOI's? The truth is, no matter how many IOI's she throws, how much interest she throws, she will never change a boy into a man.
This is principle number ONE, nothing a girl can do, will change WHO YOU ARE BEING. SHE CAN'T CHANGE YOU WITH IOI's IF THATS WHO YOU ARE BEING! Waiting for a million IOI's won't ever work to change your approach to women.
FIRST, you must be the man that IOI's affect. The kind of guy, that already doesn't need to be changed by IOI's.
- Solution:
a) First step is understanding, IOI's from a woman, WON'T change you, even though you tell yourself it will.
b) Suck that up, and realise you must act, or perhaps even be ready to escalate without IOI's.. Not in an aggressive manner, but you must realise that if you are not this guy, girls can only be rejected by you.. Assume IOI's, if it seems appropriate.
If you think she should like you, assume they are there, even the best of us miss them.
A kiss, is about the ONLY way, I accept that (ok, maybe they weren't there, but it was good I checked!)
- Have you figured out, how you react to IOI's.. How would you react to IOI's.. What would you act like, to a girl, who gave you all you needed with IOI's and SOI's. Please don't tell me, keep snickering and laughing cuz you are uncomfortable, and then NOT escalate with her! GRRRRAAAAAAGGGGGHHHHH!
Do this right now if you haven't already.. Write down, your plan, of action, and what you intend to do, WHEN YOU GET SOLID MYTHICAL IOI's.. Now that is what you need to be ALL THE TIME
2) Escalation principle number 2:
CONNECTION
If what she does, cannot affect you, or tell you, she wants you to fuck her. She isn't going to feel very sexually safe.
Do things, all the time, all be it small, give women small massages, touches on their belly, caresses, to give them a CLEAR way to tell you "I'm horny for you".
When I say hello to women, my hands slip down their waste, just on the edge between ass and lower back. I am slightly slower, slightly more embracing than normal, to allow her the time necessary, and the openings to give me IOI's.
GIVE IOI OPENINGS.This is not the same as ASKING PERMISSION FOR SEX!
This is different, and MUCH BETTER!
I always do these things.. Like start playing with her hair, for no reason, some part of my body bumping into hers as I speak, coming in close so she can touch me, flirting so she can flirt back.
3) The number 3 escalation principle is this:
Know that women HAVE TO SAY THEY DON'T LIKE YOU.
Know that I as a man, also say I DON'T LIKE YOU, to her.
Sometimes, a girl and I could be very sarcastic to eachother, and it seems like we don't like each other, but we always come together to be a little somethin somethin.
Their is naturally always going to be signs of disinterest, for it is how we keep our pride intact!
What is our first instinct with women?
Ewwww, I don't like girls...What is our first instinct when we think a girl doesn't like us?
Ewwww, I don't like her...
This is natural, and you gotta give girls leeway for this, and yourself.
Alot of girls might, fake, not answering your calls etc.. And then when you ask them to admit they were just faking, will have to, to save their pride say "no" and act congruent with that.
ALWAYS GIVE A GIRL ROOM NOT TO LIKE YOU. Its common courtesy.
Think of it like ettiquette.
People are rude if they directly express like, or force someone to show their feelings.
NEVER FORGET, GIVE A GIRL ROOM NOT TO LIKE YOU.
Alot of girls I get with, may even give me dirty looks, and act like they don't like me. Even when I play "nice game", because I've always given them that room, otherwise you will crash and burn REAL FAST!
Classic example:
The other day, I'm talking to this girl, and I shout out "hey, STUPID" (I'm being lame here) she turns around and gives me an evil little playful look and says "WHAT!".
I say "haha, so you go by stupid now do you", to which she replied "no.. I was just giving you a dirty look"..And WHY do you think she was so eager to turn around and give me a dirty look? Why do you think she was so eager to say she didn't like me.
So you see, girls that like you NEED THIS ROOM!
She knew she was slightly caught out there, and tried to recalibrate, and I also helped her out, by not noticing her fuck up.
Yes thats right, I HELP girls, make me think, she doesn't like me.. Its like par for the course not to seem to interested.
Like you don't want to appear too interested, neither does she. OBVIOUS, so give her the room she needs.
4) Escalation principle NUMBER 4:
How do you know, she doesn't like you!
YOU CAN'T KNOW THIS! EVER!
I learnt this the hard way.. I talked and spent all this effort on these girls, and then walked away cuz I thought they weren't interested. Only to find out later, THEY WERE TOTALLY INTO IT!I'd leave, because a girl was giving me pressure to leave her place. Later her friend tells me, "You shocked the fuck out of my friend by leaving.. You were SOOOO getting laid"
You get me, I said to myself, OK! LEARN TO STAY! Later on, another situation arose, and I go, oh she doesn't like me and leave. Only to hear "you were so getting laid" again!
I can't tell you how many missed lays, missed kisses, missed opportunities I had.
Lesson of the story was, ALWAYS MAKE THE MOVE.
Summary:
1) Assume she is interested, and act like it
2) Give her chances to show she likes you
3) Give a girl room to "not like you", its okay for her to display that
4) ALWAYS MAKE THE MOVE
* Women are almost incapable of approaching men they are attracted to, they're too afraid of rejection and being seen as slutty
* Women are almost incapable of making any move, escalating, etc, they're too afraid of rejection and being seen as slutty
(OF Course there are exceptions, but the general tendencies are as such!)
* And yet, women love sex just the same as us guys
You must make the moves, for women.
You must understand, that if she wants to kiss you, you need to kiss her, and give her opportunities to do things with you.
Some Terms You Will Need To Understand
- IOIs (indicators of interest), these are direct displays from the woman that she is interested, could be smiling at you, looking into your eyes, touching her hair, giving you her full attention, touching you.. Etc etc
- Escalation (the act of moving the interaction forwards), something like kissing a girl for the first time is considered escalation, talking about the context of being lovers, is escalation.. Because you are escalating towards sexuality. Escalation is the main principle with women. You must be always escalating to some degree. And this is what men fear the most. Escalating.
- SOIs (signals of intent) "are you single", "I think you are sexy", things like this are direct expressions of intent, similar to IOIs, however intentionally meant to be understood.
Understanding some basic escalation principles.
1) Let me paint you a picture. Their is a girl, and she likes a shy boy. She gives off IOI's, and the boy likes it, yet the shy boy does nothing. How is she to CHANGE this boy into a man, with IOI's? The truth is, no matter how many IOI's she throws, how much interest she throws, she will never change a boy into a man.
This is principle number ONE, nothing a girl can do, will change WHO YOU ARE BEING. SHE CAN'T CHANGE YOU WITH IOI's IF THATS WHO YOU ARE BEING! Waiting for a million IOI's won't ever work to change your approach to women.
FIRST, you must be the man that IOI's affect. The kind of guy, that already doesn't need to be changed by IOI's.
- Solution:
a) First step is understanding, IOI's from a woman, WON'T change you, even though you tell yourself it will.
b) Suck that up, and realise you must act, or perhaps even be ready to escalate without IOI's.. Not in an aggressive manner, but you must realise that if you are not this guy, girls can only be rejected by you.. Assume IOI's, if it seems appropriate.
If you think she should like you, assume they are there, even the best of us miss them.
A kiss, is about the ONLY way, I accept that (ok, maybe they weren't there, but it was good I checked!)
- Have you figured out, how you react to IOI's.. How would you react to IOI's.. What would you act like, to a girl, who gave you all you needed with IOI's and SOI's. Please don't tell me, keep snickering and laughing cuz you are uncomfortable, and then NOT escalate with her! GRRRRAAAAAAGGGGGHHHHH!
Do this right now if you haven't already.. Write down, your plan, of action, and what you intend to do, WHEN YOU GET SOLID MYTHICAL IOI's.. Now that is what you need to be ALL THE TIME
2) Escalation principle number 2:
CONNECTION
If what she does, cannot affect you, or tell you, she wants you to fuck her. She isn't going to feel very sexually safe.
Do things, all the time, all be it small, give women small massages, touches on their belly, caresses, to give them a CLEAR way to tell you "I'm horny for you".
When I say hello to women, my hands slip down their waste, just on the edge between ass and lower back. I am slightly slower, slightly more embracing than normal, to allow her the time necessary, and the openings to give me IOI's.
GIVE IOI OPENINGS.This is not the same as ASKING PERMISSION FOR SEX!
This is different, and MUCH BETTER!
I always do these things.. Like start playing with her hair, for no reason, some part of my body bumping into hers as I speak, coming in close so she can touch me, flirting so she can flirt back.
3) The number 3 escalation principle is this:
Know that women HAVE TO SAY THEY DON'T LIKE YOU.
Know that I as a man, also say I DON'T LIKE YOU, to her.
Sometimes, a girl and I could be very sarcastic to eachother, and it seems like we don't like each other, but we always come together to be a little somethin somethin.
Their is naturally always going to be signs of disinterest, for it is how we keep our pride intact!
What is our first instinct with women?
Ewwww, I don't like girls...What is our first instinct when we think a girl doesn't like us?
Ewwww, I don't like her...
This is natural, and you gotta give girls leeway for this, and yourself.
Alot of girls might, fake, not answering your calls etc.. And then when you ask them to admit they were just faking, will have to, to save their pride say "no" and act congruent with that.
ALWAYS GIVE A GIRL ROOM NOT TO LIKE YOU. Its common courtesy.
Think of it like ettiquette.
People are rude if they directly express like, or force someone to show their feelings.
NEVER FORGET, GIVE A GIRL ROOM NOT TO LIKE YOU.
Alot of girls I get with, may even give me dirty looks, and act like they don't like me. Even when I play "nice game", because I've always given them that room, otherwise you will crash and burn REAL FAST!
Classic example:
The other day, I'm talking to this girl, and I shout out "hey, STUPID" (I'm being lame here) she turns around and gives me an evil little playful look and says "WHAT!".
I say "haha, so you go by stupid now do you", to which she replied "no.. I was just giving you a dirty look"..And WHY do you think she was so eager to turn around and give me a dirty look? Why do you think she was so eager to say she didn't like me.
So you see, girls that like you NEED THIS ROOM!
She knew she was slightly caught out there, and tried to recalibrate, and I also helped her out, by not noticing her fuck up.
Yes thats right, I HELP girls, make me think, she doesn't like me.. Its like par for the course not to seem to interested.
Like you don't want to appear too interested, neither does she. OBVIOUS, so give her the room she needs.
4) Escalation principle NUMBER 4:
How do you know, she doesn't like you!
YOU CAN'T KNOW THIS! EVER!
I learnt this the hard way.. I talked and spent all this effort on these girls, and then walked away cuz I thought they weren't interested. Only to find out later, THEY WERE TOTALLY INTO IT!I'd leave, because a girl was giving me pressure to leave her place. Later her friend tells me, "You shocked the fuck out of my friend by leaving.. You were SOOOO getting laid"
You get me, I said to myself, OK! LEARN TO STAY! Later on, another situation arose, and I go, oh she doesn't like me and leave. Only to hear "you were so getting laid" again!
I can't tell you how many missed lays, missed kisses, missed opportunities I had.
Lesson of the story was, ALWAYS MAKE THE MOVE.
Summary:
1) Assume she is interested, and act like it
2) Give her chances to show she likes you
3) Give a girl room to "not like you", its okay for her to display that
4) ALWAYS MAKE THE MOVE
The Gift Of Giving
Give girls, the gift of giving.
Giving can be VERY ADDICTIVE.
Enough said
A woman loves nothing more than to GIVE to a man.
She wants to SHOW YOU SHE IS ATTRACTIVE
Do not confuse this with "she wants to be attractive"..
No..
The satisfaction is in SHOWING YOU
Girls DEEPLY want to SHOW YOU.
What girls give you, is your gift to them, because they are able to give it.
Being able to give, with no resistance from herself, and no resistance from me, will allow her to get all high on giving.
My value to her is dependant on how much value she is willing and able to give me.
The more she is willing and able to give, the more pleasure she will enable for herself. So give her the gift of giving.
Example:
Girl kisses me lightly on the lips
Me: "Is that the best you got?"
Girl: I'm a student a XXXX university..
Me: "Oh.. you must be a bit stuck up then" (look away a bit)
Girl: (grabs your arm) "Haha, no, no! I'm a good girl!"
Me: "So you don't have a bad side then?"
Girl: "Oh, I am a baaaaaad girl"
Me: "Prove it" (kiss with her)
Evoke a girls ability to present her qualities, her abilities. Its not being mean, its giving her a chance to give.
It feels OH SO RIGHT..
Giving can be VERY ADDICTIVE.
Enough said
A woman loves nothing more than to GIVE to a man.
She wants to SHOW YOU SHE IS ATTRACTIVE
Do not confuse this with "she wants to be attractive"..
No..
The satisfaction is in SHOWING YOU
Girls DEEPLY want to SHOW YOU.
What girls give you, is your gift to them, because they are able to give it.
Being able to give, with no resistance from herself, and no resistance from me, will allow her to get all high on giving.
My value to her is dependant on how much value she is willing and able to give me.
The more she is willing and able to give, the more pleasure she will enable for herself. So give her the gift of giving.
Example:
Girl kisses me lightly on the lips
Me: "Is that the best you got?"
Girl: I'm a student a XXXX university..
Me: "Oh.. you must be a bit stuck up then" (look away a bit)
Girl: (grabs your arm) "Haha, no, no! I'm a good girl!"
Me: "So you don't have a bad side then?"
Girl: "Oh, I am a baaaaaad girl"
Me: "Prove it" (kiss with her)
Evoke a girls ability to present her qualities, her abilities. Its not being mean, its giving her a chance to give.
It feels OH SO RIGHT..
Being A Subtle Man
Women like to be with a dominant man.
With women, the more SUBTLE your dominance is over her, the more SEXUAL AND SENSUAL it is.
Whilst the more OVERT, the more assonine and repulsive it is going to be. The more opressive your personality is going to be to her femininity.
I've lately come to the realisation, that my game is basically "dominant escalation", and its mainly deeply masculine in all facets.
I am not overtly sexually dominant, but rather, I express my dominance with SUBTLETY.. Which makes it more sensual..
If your dominance is too overt, its more plutonic, and less desirable.
So here is a tip:
EVERYTHING IS A SECRET
The more subtle, the more sensual, and sexual.
Secrets are sexual! Intensely so..
Masculinity, is not scary or intimidating though it is imposing. A man in the woods hunting his prey, is silent, heart beating slow, breath belowing gently. He does not run loudly, beating his chest.. He is subtle, and intimate in the hunt. And this is what depicts a powerful hunter. Subtelty.
When a man gently comes up next to a woman, in the middle of the night, his body smooths up against hers. And in his shadow of darkness she feels safe. Her back arches, her neck dips back in pleasure, she moans out in release.
Masculinity, is what it is, but the biggest catalyst for masculinity to turn sexual, IS SUBTLETY.
Be subtle, its sensual.
I act to display my sexual dominance, but I'm not showy about it, its just me and her that sees it. Like a kiss, nothing else exists. In a secret tunnel, as I make eye contact, I transmit my sexuality with the thought "I can handle it, can you".
Not overtly spoken, but deep, powerful, and subtle. With a hint of a smile, deep down in my gut.
That kind of eye contact, that kind of repor with a woman, is sexual masculinity. The subtelty of it should create TENSION.. And tension creates
CONNECTION (more on that in a later post).
If you go around being too overt, you won't get that tension, that connects you with the woman. Know when to turn it SUBTLE, its important.
With women, the more SUBTLE your dominance is over her, the more SEXUAL AND SENSUAL it is.
Whilst the more OVERT, the more assonine and repulsive it is going to be. The more opressive your personality is going to be to her femininity.
I've lately come to the realisation, that my game is basically "dominant escalation", and its mainly deeply masculine in all facets.
I am not overtly sexually dominant, but rather, I express my dominance with SUBTLETY.. Which makes it more sensual..
If your dominance is too overt, its more plutonic, and less desirable.
So here is a tip:
EVERYTHING IS A SECRET
The more subtle, the more sensual, and sexual.
Secrets are sexual! Intensely so..
Masculinity, is not scary or intimidating though it is imposing. A man in the woods hunting his prey, is silent, heart beating slow, breath belowing gently. He does not run loudly, beating his chest.. He is subtle, and intimate in the hunt. And this is what depicts a powerful hunter. Subtelty.
When a man gently comes up next to a woman, in the middle of the night, his body smooths up against hers. And in his shadow of darkness she feels safe. Her back arches, her neck dips back in pleasure, she moans out in release.
Masculinity, is what it is, but the biggest catalyst for masculinity to turn sexual, IS SUBTLETY.
Be subtle, its sensual.
I act to display my sexual dominance, but I'm not showy about it, its just me and her that sees it. Like a kiss, nothing else exists. In a secret tunnel, as I make eye contact, I transmit my sexuality with the thought "I can handle it, can you".
Not overtly spoken, but deep, powerful, and subtle. With a hint of a smile, deep down in my gut.
That kind of eye contact, that kind of repor with a woman, is sexual masculinity. The subtelty of it should create TENSION.. And tension creates
CONNECTION (more on that in a later post).
If you go around being too overt, you won't get that tension, that connects you with the woman. Know when to turn it SUBTLE, its important.
If Not Romance, Then How Do You Treat People Well? (Here is the answer)
Becoming a more generous guy, VIA LEADING.
Leadership, is the way we want you to behave, to help those around you. We do NOT, want you running around, just submitting to whatever people tell you to do. Copping out, is not a nice thing for other people. Its bad for them and its bad for you. You must stand up and be a man!
Leading should not be confused with being "a nice guy" who just cops out, and lets chips fall where they may.
YOU MUST LEAD, and leading is almost ALWAYS NICE AND WARM AND POWERFUL, even when its a little mean.
Alot of people confuse the two as the same thing. But to me, its either COP OUT, or LEAD.
Leading, to me means, having a strong depth of character. An internal well of strength pouring from you. Standing over people, but not harming them. But instead leading, and pouring out a sense of comfort and control of self. Stopping JUST before the edge.
Leading is generally, abundant, generous, etc.. Not to be confused with copping out, "oh hey sweety, anything I can do for you".
Girl: AH! NO!
An ADVENTUROUS guy, that leads alot, with a bit of a seducer to him (way with words and women) will get laid alot.. And he will have alot of fun.
Let Me Tell You About A Leading Technique I Call Comfort Projection:
- By making something comfortable that would normally be uncomfortable.
- By acting comfortably in a situation that would make others uncomfortable.
- By displaying to others how to act comfortably in a situation.
Make comfortable, what would normally not be so.
Do things that people would find uncomfortable and MAKE IT comfortable.
Display you have no issues.
By doing this, you project to others, how they can behave around you.
You set an example.
This is not only attractive, it is leading. And it should be the main source of your "kindness to others". Replacing "Copping out and acting nice".. Erase "acting nice" and replace it with "projecting comfort".
Leadership, is the way we want you to behave, to help those around you. We do NOT, want you running around, just submitting to whatever people tell you to do. Copping out, is not a nice thing for other people. Its bad for them and its bad for you. You must stand up and be a man!
Leading should not be confused with being "a nice guy" who just cops out, and lets chips fall where they may.
YOU MUST LEAD, and leading is almost ALWAYS NICE AND WARM AND POWERFUL, even when its a little mean.
Alot of people confuse the two as the same thing. But to me, its either COP OUT, or LEAD.
Leading, to me means, having a strong depth of character. An internal well of strength pouring from you. Standing over people, but not harming them. But instead leading, and pouring out a sense of comfort and control of self. Stopping JUST before the edge.
Leading is generally, abundant, generous, etc.. Not to be confused with copping out, "oh hey sweety, anything I can do for you".
Girl: AH! NO!
An ADVENTUROUS guy, that leads alot, with a bit of a seducer to him (way with words and women) will get laid alot.. And he will have alot of fun.
Let Me Tell You About A Leading Technique I Call Comfort Projection:
- By making something comfortable that would normally be uncomfortable.
- By acting comfortably in a situation that would make others uncomfortable.
- By displaying to others how to act comfortably in a situation.
Make comfortable, what would normally not be so.
Do things that people would find uncomfortable and MAKE IT comfortable.
Display you have no issues.
By doing this, you project to others, how they can behave around you.
You set an example.
This is not only attractive, it is leading. And it should be the main source of your "kindness to others". Replacing "Copping out and acting nice".. Erase "acting nice" and replace it with "projecting comfort".
Sex Is The Moral High Ground
This is important to learn before we get started. For without properly understanding WHY, we feel the way we do towards women, we can never truly give ourselves.
Some people believe, the moral high ground is to be romantic to whomever they are attracted to..
They believe, that to be "just after sex" (as they put it) is morally inferior.
I want you to suspend your judgement for a moment, as I explain my experience, and why I believe what I believe..
To go into a relationship with someone, is a tricky thing. Especially if you are not certain they are "the one".
Romance indicates permanence, and is generally associated with "the one".
I guess to some extent, I think of a romantic relationship as hurtful because, if you fool a person into believing in permanence, and break it off with them to fuck some other person or pursue another you believe to be "the one".
That is very cruel.
That person has now been used not just for sex, but also romantically and as an entire person.
Some don't like the whole, just sex thing..
And its touted in the media that "men are dogs, only after sex"..
But their is a valiant side to mens initial instincts. Just as their is a darker side to womens.
I will go on to explain.
The truth is.. Both, "just sex", and romance, have a darker side.
Why get romantic if they aren't the one. You will only end up hurting that person.
I believe romance, requires MUCH higher standards, than that of sex.
Wouldn't you agree?
I can't, and WON'T be romantic with women, until they TRULY TRULY deserve it, until I truly know, they are indeed "the one".
After all, what is more important than your soul and your heart. For that trust to be abused is just.. unforgivable.. And it is for that reason. I believe men are on the right track, with this whole, sex thing. Its not as silly as it sounds to these people in their ivory towers.
It is.. after all is said and done.. romantic.
Sexuality isn't the devil.. It is what allows romance to be held to higher standards than that of sex.
To hold sex to higher standards than romance, is plain and simple, morally wrong.
Sex is morally right. Romance, without harsher standards, is morally wrong. Romance should be reserved to those whom TRULY DESERVE IT. Plus, what is more sexy, than to know, you must deserve romance, and a mans love.
A sexual relationship, is more moral, and more honest, than to simply romance somebody and expose to them who you really are.
Do not sell your soul to be with someone.
Its okay to have sex, whilst not telling people who and what you are on the inside.
That kind of knowledge is very important.
So don't go out, wooing women with flowers, and dates, and telling them your life story. Instead, distract them with fun, and sex, and enjoying eachothers company and embrace.
Don't tell people all about yourself..
That is reserved for much later.
Sex should always come before romance.
Romance, is gold, where sex is silver.
I know women like romance.. We all know this..
But we all know what happens. A girl goes out with a great romantic guy, then fucks the local horndog after years of faithfulness.
That ain't right, okay. I'm not cool with that.
Let women be more patient, and take time to find a mans heart, and only after the time she has demonstrated her true commitment..
Perhaps instead of sex, being on the first night of the wedding. Perhaps, the first expression of who we truly are within our hearts and souls, should be expressed. Perhaps the first act of romance.
Doesn't that just make more sense?
Its important to know this, so that you can fight the good fight. I don't want anymore guys or girls out there, getting hurt, because they through romance around like it was pennies, and clutch sex like it was a diamond.
Lets get real.
Some people believe, the moral high ground is to be romantic to whomever they are attracted to..
They believe, that to be "just after sex" (as they put it) is morally inferior.
I want you to suspend your judgement for a moment, as I explain my experience, and why I believe what I believe..
To go into a relationship with someone, is a tricky thing. Especially if you are not certain they are "the one".
Romance indicates permanence, and is generally associated with "the one".
I guess to some extent, I think of a romantic relationship as hurtful because, if you fool a person into believing in permanence, and break it off with them to fuck some other person or pursue another you believe to be "the one".
That is very cruel.
That person has now been used not just for sex, but also romantically and as an entire person.
Some don't like the whole, just sex thing..
And its touted in the media that "men are dogs, only after sex"..
But their is a valiant side to mens initial instincts. Just as their is a darker side to womens.
I will go on to explain.
The truth is.. Both, "just sex", and romance, have a darker side.
Why get romantic if they aren't the one. You will only end up hurting that person.
I believe romance, requires MUCH higher standards, than that of sex.
Wouldn't you agree?
I can't, and WON'T be romantic with women, until they TRULY TRULY deserve it, until I truly know, they are indeed "the one".
After all, what is more important than your soul and your heart. For that trust to be abused is just.. unforgivable.. And it is for that reason. I believe men are on the right track, with this whole, sex thing. Its not as silly as it sounds to these people in their ivory towers.
It is.. after all is said and done.. romantic.
Sexuality isn't the devil.. It is what allows romance to be held to higher standards than that of sex.
To hold sex to higher standards than romance, is plain and simple, morally wrong.
Sex is morally right. Romance, without harsher standards, is morally wrong. Romance should be reserved to those whom TRULY DESERVE IT. Plus, what is more sexy, than to know, you must deserve romance, and a mans love.
A sexual relationship, is more moral, and more honest, than to simply romance somebody and expose to them who you really are.
Do not sell your soul to be with someone.
Its okay to have sex, whilst not telling people who and what you are on the inside.
That kind of knowledge is very important.
So don't go out, wooing women with flowers, and dates, and telling them your life story. Instead, distract them with fun, and sex, and enjoying eachothers company and embrace.
Don't tell people all about yourself..
That is reserved for much later.
Sex should always come before romance.
Romance, is gold, where sex is silver.
I know women like romance.. We all know this..
But we all know what happens. A girl goes out with a great romantic guy, then fucks the local horndog after years of faithfulness.
That ain't right, okay. I'm not cool with that.
Let women be more patient, and take time to find a mans heart, and only after the time she has demonstrated her true commitment..
Perhaps instead of sex, being on the first night of the wedding. Perhaps, the first expression of who we truly are within our hearts and souls, should be expressed. Perhaps the first act of romance.
Doesn't that just make more sense?
Its important to know this, so that you can fight the good fight. I don't want anymore guys or girls out there, getting hurt, because they through romance around like it was pennies, and clutch sex like it was a diamond.
Lets get real.
Some Very Quick Pointers Before We Begin
-Do some basic body language improvement
a) Don't look down, look people in the eyes
b) Don't cross your arms or put them in you pockets, if anywhere, on you belt, or in back pocket.
-Learn some basic leading skills
a) Don't wait for others to introduce you, introduce yourself
b) Don't rely on others to make convo, have some ways to be the base of any social interaction.
-Learn some appreciation.. Don't get jealous, appreciate people are doing well.. Don't get cut from rejections, appreciate them etc etc..
-Assume repor.. Know how to make people comfortable..
a) pretend like you are old friends, on a hugging basis
b) pretend like you and her, know each other, and know that you like each other
-A basic way to kiss
a) Do you trust me...Close your eyes.. (kiss)
-A basic way to exchange numbers
a) Talk well with her for a little while, and whilst her attention on you is high, just hand her your phone, and she'll put her number in.
-Have a basic date format
a) Mine is taking a walk, getting to know her, figuring it out from their
-Have a basic ways to hold and touch
a) Touch at the hips, at the hands, at the hair
b) Manipulate her body posistions, like take her hand and place it on her other knee.. Place her hand over her eyes when she looks at you.. Give her a spin.. Whatever is fun and cool at the time
c) Learn to make, touching, a COMFORTING thing, something that, makes it LESS WEIRD not more.. Ie, shaking someones hand is less weird.. Giving someone a touch on the shoulder to say hi, is less weird.. Gesturing towards someone, as you speak, or as they approach you is less weird, and more inviting.
-Have some of your own personal sass.. Don't be a dick to start with, its ok to suplicate a little, especially at the start. Be cool, enjoy peoples company, bring some life. MAKE THE INTERACTION, thats a leader. Learn what is REALLY FUNNY, and learn how to tweak your humor to make it funnier, and slightly cooler
a) Avoid negative humor (unless really funny)
b) Avoid self depricating humor (unless SUPER FUNNY and done in a cool way)
c) Don't be a stand up comedian, but learn how to make those occasional jokes REALLY gut busting.
-Learn how to make someones day
a) Give someone a big appreciative smile, or hug, or compliment just to make their day
b) Best compliment, comes from those you respect.. So build up some respect THEN, give this stuff
-Have some basic respect builders
a) Appreciate things people do
b) Get peoples viewpoints
c) Assume repor, assume similarity
d) Talk to MANY GROUPS, and have a LARGE NETWORK, even if you only "just know them". And introduction to the right people, is PRICELESS.
e) Have something people admire you for
-GET SOME HOBBIES, get something you are deeply passionate for.. Music, poker, martial arts, dancing, art.. Whatever! Start up some hobbies NOW!
-Get some taylored clothes
a) Get only shirts that fit you, no massive Tshirts that don't fit you, no super tight EMO girl pants.
b) Stick to classics
c) Look up a bit of fashion
d) Get some accessories, that look nice: Shoes, watch, ring.. Whatever is your thing (make it you, but make it interesting, something a little flashy, to notice)
e) Get a cool hair cut
- Start exercising, keep fit, start gym.
- Build an external social circle from your original.. Ie, have a few social groups, it never hurts.- Get comfortable around girls, with sex, with people and socialising..
a) Go out to some dance lessons, and humilate yourself there for a little while, say hi to everyone.. Go to some other hobbies, embarrass yourself there.. Till you can go to new places and LOVE IT. Learn to love new things.
b) Just start talking to girls, about their perspective on things, opinions etc, whatever- Have some basic conversation building blocks
a) Make them personal to you, and something YOU would say generally to people
b) Follow your instincts
- Start small
a) Just talk to some girls and get into it, see where it leads
b) Just talk to a group of girls, and see where it leads
c) Try to get this girl to hang later, and see where it leads
See where it leads
- MAKE THE JOURNEY FUN
a) You don't just go to gym, and try to push out the hardest weights.. Relax man, its not about ego.. The start is hard, and after the test period it gets a little easier but you still have to push yourself. Do what you enjoy most.. Its not about what you achieve, you aren't out there to be superman.. Results will come, and you don't mind either way, so you do it the most enjoyable way because PASSION IS WHAT MATTERS THE MOST! Your desire to keep going, is what will dictate your future success.
-SIMPLIFY.. if girls want to complicate, if other guys want to complicate, SIMPLIFY.. "you are completely right, but it still doesn't matter.. Check ya later"
And one last thing, USE YOUR INSTINCTS, be your own man, be your own expert. Don't listen to too much advice.
Too much awareness of anything, SILENCES YOU TO DO NOTHING!
So keep a check on that. There is no super need. Just work your best, and at your most efficient pace, and see where that leads you. Then make a descision from there.
If you start talking to some girls, then you are WAY ahead of the competition, as hardly anybody has the balls to cold approach without some heavy liquor! So go for it, every thing you learn is "a secret" most guys don't have, so have fun!
a) Don't look down, look people in the eyes
b) Don't cross your arms or put them in you pockets, if anywhere, on you belt, or in back pocket.
-Learn some basic leading skills
a) Don't wait for others to introduce you, introduce yourself
b) Don't rely on others to make convo, have some ways to be the base of any social interaction.
-Learn some appreciation.. Don't get jealous, appreciate people are doing well.. Don't get cut from rejections, appreciate them etc etc..
-Assume repor.. Know how to make people comfortable..
a) pretend like you are old friends, on a hugging basis
b) pretend like you and her, know each other, and know that you like each other
-A basic way to kiss
a) Do you trust me...Close your eyes.. (kiss)
-A basic way to exchange numbers
a) Talk well with her for a little while, and whilst her attention on you is high, just hand her your phone, and she'll put her number in.
-Have a basic date format
a) Mine is taking a walk, getting to know her, figuring it out from their
-Have a basic ways to hold and touch
a) Touch at the hips, at the hands, at the hair
b) Manipulate her body posistions, like take her hand and place it on her other knee.. Place her hand over her eyes when she looks at you.. Give her a spin.. Whatever is fun and cool at the time
c) Learn to make, touching, a COMFORTING thing, something that, makes it LESS WEIRD not more.. Ie, shaking someones hand is less weird.. Giving someone a touch on the shoulder to say hi, is less weird.. Gesturing towards someone, as you speak, or as they approach you is less weird, and more inviting.
-Have some of your own personal sass.. Don't be a dick to start with, its ok to suplicate a little, especially at the start. Be cool, enjoy peoples company, bring some life. MAKE THE INTERACTION, thats a leader. Learn what is REALLY FUNNY, and learn how to tweak your humor to make it funnier, and slightly cooler
a) Avoid negative humor (unless really funny)
b) Avoid self depricating humor (unless SUPER FUNNY and done in a cool way)
c) Don't be a stand up comedian, but learn how to make those occasional jokes REALLY gut busting.
-Learn how to make someones day
a) Give someone a big appreciative smile, or hug, or compliment just to make their day
b) Best compliment, comes from those you respect.. So build up some respect THEN, give this stuff
-Have some basic respect builders
a) Appreciate things people do
b) Get peoples viewpoints
c) Assume repor, assume similarity
d) Talk to MANY GROUPS, and have a LARGE NETWORK, even if you only "just know them". And introduction to the right people, is PRICELESS.
e) Have something people admire you for
-GET SOME HOBBIES, get something you are deeply passionate for.. Music, poker, martial arts, dancing, art.. Whatever! Start up some hobbies NOW!
-Get some taylored clothes
a) Get only shirts that fit you, no massive Tshirts that don't fit you, no super tight EMO girl pants.
b) Stick to classics
c) Look up a bit of fashion
d) Get some accessories, that look nice: Shoes, watch, ring.. Whatever is your thing (make it you, but make it interesting, something a little flashy, to notice)
e) Get a cool hair cut
- Start exercising, keep fit, start gym.
- Build an external social circle from your original.. Ie, have a few social groups, it never hurts.- Get comfortable around girls, with sex, with people and socialising..
a) Go out to some dance lessons, and humilate yourself there for a little while, say hi to everyone.. Go to some other hobbies, embarrass yourself there.. Till you can go to new places and LOVE IT. Learn to love new things.
b) Just start talking to girls, about their perspective on things, opinions etc, whatever- Have some basic conversation building blocks
a) Make them personal to you, and something YOU would say generally to people
b) Follow your instincts
- Start small
a) Just talk to some girls and get into it, see where it leads
b) Just talk to a group of girls, and see where it leads
c) Try to get this girl to hang later, and see where it leads
See where it leads
- MAKE THE JOURNEY FUN
a) You don't just go to gym, and try to push out the hardest weights.. Relax man, its not about ego.. The start is hard, and after the test period it gets a little easier but you still have to push yourself. Do what you enjoy most.. Its not about what you achieve, you aren't out there to be superman.. Results will come, and you don't mind either way, so you do it the most enjoyable way because PASSION IS WHAT MATTERS THE MOST! Your desire to keep going, is what will dictate your future success.
-SIMPLIFY.. if girls want to complicate, if other guys want to complicate, SIMPLIFY.. "you are completely right, but it still doesn't matter.. Check ya later"
And one last thing, USE YOUR INSTINCTS, be your own man, be your own expert. Don't listen to too much advice.
Too much awareness of anything, SILENCES YOU TO DO NOTHING!
So keep a check on that. There is no super need. Just work your best, and at your most efficient pace, and see where that leads you. Then make a descision from there.
If you start talking to some girls, then you are WAY ahead of the competition, as hardly anybody has the balls to cold approach without some heavy liquor! So go for it, every thing you learn is "a secret" most guys don't have, so have fun!
Attraction Is Natural
REAL HARD, FUCK ME BAD, ATTRACTION.
Earth shattering! Mind exploding! Powerfully Attractive!
Some may say, judging relationships, purely off attraction is shallow and vain.
To be afraid of seduction, IS TO BE SHALLOW, and to be VAIN. Alot of guys and girls outside the community, think "If I seduce, I am vain, because I like attractive people".
This is a load of bullshit, attraction is natural.
You should not fuck the dirt because it does not sexually arouse you, and is thus, not superficial.
Her being attractive, and you wanting her doesn't make you vain. Attraction is natural and NECESSARY.. Any person that says otherwise, give them a patch of dirt to stick their dick into. And some highway sounds to masterbate to.
What is vain however, is believing that only looks, is attractive, or what is seen upon first impressions only.
Attraction is a drug like any other, and it can flow from many sources. If you are the source of such a drug, YOU ARE THE GUY THAT WOMEN WANT. A fountain of attraction.
Adopting this view, is to accept that attraction is not vain, because their are MANY sources of attraction.
Earth shattering! Mind exploding! Powerfully Attractive!
Some may say, judging relationships, purely off attraction is shallow and vain.
To be afraid of seduction, IS TO BE SHALLOW, and to be VAIN. Alot of guys and girls outside the community, think "If I seduce, I am vain, because I like attractive people".
This is a load of bullshit, attraction is natural.
You should not fuck the dirt because it does not sexually arouse you, and is thus, not superficial.
Her being attractive, and you wanting her doesn't make you vain. Attraction is natural and NECESSARY.. Any person that says otherwise, give them a patch of dirt to stick their dick into. And some highway sounds to masterbate to.
What is vain however, is believing that only looks, is attractive, or what is seen upon first impressions only.
Attraction is a drug like any other, and it can flow from many sources. If you are the source of such a drug, YOU ARE THE GUY THAT WOMEN WANT. A fountain of attraction.
Adopting this view, is to accept that attraction is not vain, because their are MANY sources of attraction.
Something You Must Understand Before We Begin
Contradictions, ironies, paradox's..
Become familiar with them, they will be your company for the rest of your journey. You will learn to love them. (Now can you see why you will need balls? You are going to have to do the very hardest of all things.. Contradict yourself)
What is powerful to realise in life is this.
If something CONTRADICTS, is IRONIC, or PARADOXICAL.. Its likely MORE TRUE.
Contradictions ARE ALWAYS A SIGN YOU ARE ON THE RIGHT TRACK! Not the wrong one..
Its important you realise this before we begin, so that you argue less with what seems wrong, and accept less willingly what seems right. This will help guide you.
If I say its right, I want you to challenge me or laugh at me, knowing its most likely wrong.. If it seems retarded, I want you to think "wouldn't it be funny if this one was right?" "wouldn't that just be nuts if?"..
Contradiction = GOOD THING!
Its healthy
By your mind, contradicting my advice, you will be able to hear, what I could not say, because I am busy saying something else.. And I need you to do this.. I can only teach half the story, you must oppose me to understand the rest of what I want to say.
Become familiar with them, they will be your company for the rest of your journey. You will learn to love them. (Now can you see why you will need balls? You are going to have to do the very hardest of all things.. Contradict yourself)
What is powerful to realise in life is this.
If something CONTRADICTS, is IRONIC, or PARADOXICAL.. Its likely MORE TRUE.
Contradictions ARE ALWAYS A SIGN YOU ARE ON THE RIGHT TRACK! Not the wrong one..
Its important you realise this before we begin, so that you argue less with what seems wrong, and accept less willingly what seems right. This will help guide you.
If I say its right, I want you to challenge me or laugh at me, knowing its most likely wrong.. If it seems retarded, I want you to think "wouldn't it be funny if this one was right?" "wouldn't that just be nuts if?"..
Contradiction = GOOD THING!
Its healthy
By your mind, contradicting my advice, you will be able to hear, what I could not say, because I am busy saying something else.. And I need you to do this.. I can only teach half the story, you must oppose me to understand the rest of what I want to say.
The First Necessity
If you don't have balls,
And you come to this blog, "Looking for the answer"
Its not gonna work
Get balls, then come back.
Everything I could ever teach you is entirely useless unless you have balls.
No knowledge will make anything easier.
BE SELF RELIANT, FIRST AND FOREMOST!
For without self reliance, and independence, NOTHING, EVER, will work for you.
Burden what you must, scramble, flinch, look stupid.. Do what must be done..So long as it doesn't breach your morals massively, get it done. Balls, is all you need.
The reason this is the case.. Is because success, doesn't come from FAMILIAR FEELINGS, on the inside. It comes from adventure of finding UNFAMILIAR FEELINGS.
Everybody starts at the start, because it takes EXPLORING OUTSIDE OF YOURSELF.
Be self reliant!
Be independent!
Be ballsy!
Its something many can SAY they can do. But very few actually can do.
If you are reading, in the hope that it may give you balls.. You are going to fail.
IF YOU USE BALLS, you will eventually make it! Cuz if you use balls, you will challenge what you believe, AND ALWAYS MOVE FORWARDS.
So go get some balls before you read anything of mine, or it won't help you.
And you come to this blog, "Looking for the answer"
Its not gonna work
Get balls, then come back.
Everything I could ever teach you is entirely useless unless you have balls.
No knowledge will make anything easier.
BE SELF RELIANT, FIRST AND FOREMOST!
For without self reliance, and independence, NOTHING, EVER, will work for you.
Burden what you must, scramble, flinch, look stupid.. Do what must be done..So long as it doesn't breach your morals massively, get it done. Balls, is all you need.
The reason this is the case.. Is because success, doesn't come from FAMILIAR FEELINGS, on the inside. It comes from adventure of finding UNFAMILIAR FEELINGS.
Everybody starts at the start, because it takes EXPLORING OUTSIDE OF YOURSELF.
Be self reliant!
Be independent!
Be ballsy!
Its something many can SAY they can do. But very few actually can do.
If you are reading, in the hope that it may give you balls.. You are going to fail.
IF YOU USE BALLS, you will eventually make it! Cuz if you use balls, you will challenge what you believe, AND ALWAYS MOVE FORWARDS.
So go get some balls before you read anything of mine, or it won't help you.
Wednesday, July 23, 2008
The Game
The game is the natural knowledge that, if you like women too much they don't like you, and if women like you too much you don't like them.
Girls try not to call guys back, and show distinterest, but still get the guy somehow.
Guys try to get girls thinking they don't like them, but still get her into bed.
Thats it basically.
How to not show you like them, and get them into the sack.
Appearance = We don't like each other
Reality = We are really unsure what to do
Those really good at game, don't even have to hide their interest in the opposite sex. They trancend the game, and it turns into SEDUCTION.
IE "god, I find you so hot, my place, NOW!" girl laughs (is he serious) hehe, then quickly silences herself, HE IS! "lets go!"
Girls try not to call guys back, and show distinterest, but still get the guy somehow.
Guys try to get girls thinking they don't like them, but still get her into bed.
Thats it basically.
How to not show you like them, and get them into the sack.
Appearance = We don't like each other
Reality = We are really unsure what to do
Those really good at game, don't even have to hide their interest in the opposite sex. They trancend the game, and it turns into SEDUCTION.
IE "god, I find you so hot, my place, NOW!" girl laughs (is he serious) hehe, then quickly silences herself, HE IS! "lets go!"
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